I was wondering if there is such a thing as ‘too much’ masturbation as I feel I actually do it a little too often and I would like to know if it’s dangerous to health or anything?
(Male:16)
Let me put your mind at rest straight away, masturbation (sometimes called wanking) is perfectly safe and will not damage your health. Infact it is a very good way of exploring your own body and getting to know yourself. Different blokes will also have different levels of sex drive, some blokes will masturbate a lot and others will do it less frequently – there is no hard and fast rule. So do not worry and enjoy yourself. If you would like more sexual advice for both boys and girls then visit www.ruthinking.co.uk
My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 months and last night got carried away. He put his thing in me, but pulled it out as he came. I'm frightened that I may get pregnant. Help what should I do?
(Female:15)
If you’re worried about getting pregnant, either by getting “carried away”, or the condom broke or you forgot to take your pill, you can get emergency contraception (up to 72 hours / 3 days later) or have an IUD fitted (up to 120 hours/5 days later) from a GUM (Sexual Health) clinic or Family Planning Clinic. Some pharmacies and GP surgeries offer this free to young people but check www.ruthinking.co.uk and click on ‘In Your Area’ for participating pharmacists and GP’s in your area. It’s very important you get this a soon as possible; it’s only effective within 3 days, the sooner the better!
Even though your boyfriend pulled out before he came, you could still be at risk of getting pregnant or getting an STI (sexually transmitted infection) because there can be “pre-cum” present and only a condom can prevent you from coming into contact with this.
If you are worried about pregnancy, speak to a health adviser or nurse at a family planning centre, or GUM clinic, as well, if you are worried about an STI, talking to a health adviser at the GUM clinic can help. It’s confidential and they won’t judge you. They are concerned about your health and the service is there for you. If you are having sex regularly you can’t rely on emergency contraception to stop you getting pregnant. Talk to a nurse or doctor about what contraception is right for you.
Remember! You're entitled to free, confidential advice on sex, even if you are under 16.
I've been going out with my girlfriend for some time and we mess around a lot. When she plays with me I come very quickly. Now she wants us to have sex and I am frightened I will not be able to last and please her.
Help. (Male: 17)
I assume you mean by “having sex” as having penetrative sex? There are loads of ways of having sex without having to have penetrative sex! Kissing, touching, rubbing…
The most important thing to do is to have it when you both feel ready. You’ve got the rest of your life, and no doubt sex will be a part of that, there’s no race!
Better to wait until you both feel ready and not pressured, than to do it and regret it later!
If you are ready, what precautions have you thought about? Do you know how to use condoms? (To prevent the chance of your girlfriend getting pregnant and or preventing your chance of getting an STI (sexually transmitted infection). If you’ve both never had sex before, you cannot get an STI, but she could still get pregnant. A condom is the best way for you to be sure neither happen. Check out www.ruthinking.co.uk “In your area” for a list of the agencies where you can get free condoms, and free and confidential advice. If you are worried about coming too quickly, try some Extra Strong condoms, they are slightly thicker than average ones, and may reduce the sensation a bit more, giving you more “staying power”. As you feel more comfortable and confident with having sex, you’ll find that you will be able to control more when you come.
Is your girlfriend over the age of 16? Sex with anyone under the age of 16 is illegal.
Remember, you don’t have to do anything that you don’t feel comfortable with, for anyone. When the time is right, you will know. First time (and anytime) should be a pleasurable and fun experience. What fun can it be if you don’t feel right about it?
