Hiya. I was hoping you could answer a question for me, because I'm a little confused. I know when a girl has her period, she can get pregnant whenever. But is she more likely to get pregnant whilst on her period or not?
(Female: 16 - 19 Years)
Intercourse during a menstrual period would be a personal choice to be discussed with your partner. However, it must never be assumed that any time during the menstrual cycle is ‘safe’ regarding the risk of pregnancy. It would be just as important to use a condom during this time as any other time due to the possibility of transmitting infections carried in the blood such as HIV and Hepatitis B. It would be advisable to abstain during your period due the risk of a condom breaking.
I have green stuff leaking from my fanny and my boyfriend wants to have sex with me, what shall I do? I'm really worried.
Female: 13 - 15
Any unusual or smelly discharge from the vagina or penis may indicate you have an infection. You don’t need to have had a lot of partners to get a sexually transmitted infection (STI). Anybody who has sex can get one. Most STIs can be completely cured if found early enough. If not treated you may pass this on to someone else or cause permanent damage to you or your partners health. It may even mean that you are unable to have a baby if you choose to later on.
Go to your doctor or nurse at your GP surgery or to a sexual health clinic. At the clinic you will be given a full sexual health check. You can get confidential advice and treatment even if you are under the legal age of consent which is 16 but staff may need to involve other services if they believe you or another person to be at significant risk of harm this will be discussed with you.
Don’t have sex until you are treated and have the all clear
Tell anyone you have had sex with so they can be tested and treated. Telling may be difficult as you may be scared or even angry but it is important to let your boyfriend know and encourage him to visit the clinic too. If you go to the clinic together you will be seen separately.
Be open and honest with your boyfriend. You can ask to see a sexual health advisor at a clinic to talk about relationships, sexuality, sexual problems and STIs. Good Luck.
My boyfriend is too obsessive, he makes me cringe, but at the end of the day I don't want to see him with anyone else. Whilst we were getting together I went on holiday and that night he claimed he felt lonely and slept with is ex, this really hurt me and has made me feel as though I can no longer trust him. His ex is apparently a slag and has many rumours about her saying she has sexually transmitted infections. I'm scared I could have caught one as we have done it bare back many of times. We broke up a few days ago and I am not sure whether to get back with him or not, he is begging me to be with him, but to all his friends he is making out I'm a complete bitch. what do I do? PLZ HELP
(Female 16 - 19 years)
Reading between the lines you obviously have huge doubts about your ex boyfriend and by what you say, he doesn't seem very reliable or faithful. He also sounds like a very controlling individual and the more involved you get with him the worse things could get for you. You should trust your instincts and find someone new - you deserve better. You mention that you have had unprotected sex. It is important that you get proper advice and be checked out for sexually transmitted infections. You can go to see your GP or you may prefer to visit a local sexual health clinic. Click on this NHS link and follow the trail by putting in your post code to find your nearest clinic. The website has also some very useful information. NHS clinics are very friendly, understanding and confidential. Good luck!
Me and my partner have been together for over 2 years now, and have had a sexual relationship from the word go! But over the past 9 months our "sex life" has changed dramatically when we do have Sexual intercourse he finishes not long after starting! We talk about it but he said it just happens due to stress. I love him so much but it's tearing us apart, I dunno what to do now, I've tried suggesting new thing but nothing is working. Can you help me please? Female: 16 - 19 years
Problems with a boy coming too quickly are not uncommon, but this is much more common when they start a new sexual relationship or are having sex for the first time. Your problem begs the question what has changed over the last nine months? Could it be you are having sex less often, so that when it does happen it is more of an intense and heated encounter? Maybe you need to slow things down and take your time. Your boyfriend could also try using extra strong condoms, which are slightly thicker than regular condoms and can in themselves decrease stimulation. The good thing is that you are talking about it. Be patient and understanding and we are sure things will improve. You could also try looking at this website which is packed with good information. Good luck.
I was wondering if there is such a thing as ‘too much’ masturbation as I feel I actually do it a little too often and I would like to know if it’s dangerous to health or anything?
(Male:16)
Let me put your mind at rest straight away, masturbation (sometimes called wanking) is perfectly safe and will not damage your health. Infact it is a very good way of exploring your own body and getting to know yourself. Different blokes will also have different levels of sex drive, some blokes will masturbate a lot and others will do it less frequently – there is no hard and fast rule. So do not worry and enjoy yourself. If you would like more sexual advice for both boys and girls then visit www.ruthinking.co.uk
My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 months and last night got carried away. He put his thing in me, but pulled it out as he came. I'm frightened that I may get pregnant. Help what should I do?
(Female:15)
If you’re worried about getting pregnant, either by getting “carried away”, or the condom broke or you forgot to take your pill, you can get emergency contraception (up to 72 hours / 3 days later) or have an IUD fitted (up to 120 hours/5 days later) from a GUM (Sexual Health) clinic or Family Planning Clinic. Some pharmacies and GP surgeries offer this free to young people but check www.ruthinking.co.uk and click on ‘In Your Area’ for participating pharmacists and GP’s in your area. It’s very important you get this a soon as possible; it’s only effective within 3 days, the sooner the better!
Even though your boyfriend pulled out before he came, you could still be at risk of getting pregnant or getting an STI (sexually transmitted infection) because there can be “pre-cum” present and only a condom can prevent you from coming into contact with this.
If you are worried about pregnancy, speak to a health adviser or nurse at a family planning centre, or GUM clinic, as well, if you are worried about an STI, talking to a health adviser at the GUM clinic can help. It’s confidential and they won’t judge you. They are concerned about your health and the service is there for you. If you are having sex regularly you can’t rely on emergency contraception to stop you getting pregnant. Talk to a nurse or doctor about what contraception is right for you.
Remember! You're entitled to free, confidential advice on sex, even if you are under 16.
I've been going out with my girlfriend for some time and we mess around a lot. When she plays with me I come very quickly. Now she wants us to have sex and I am frightened I will not be able to last and please her.
Help. (Male: 17)
I assume you mean by “having sex” as having penetrative sex? There are loads of ways of having sex without having to have penetrative sex! Kissing, touching, rubbing…
The most important thing to do is to have it when you both feel ready. You’ve got the rest of your life, and no doubt sex will be a part of that, there’s no race!
Better to wait until you both feel ready and not pressured, than to do it and regret it later!
If you are ready, what precautions have you thought about? Do you know how to use condoms? (To prevent the chance of your girlfriend getting pregnant and or preventing your chance of getting an STI (sexually transmitted infection). If you’ve both never had sex before, you cannot get an STI, but she could still get pregnant. A condom is the best way for you to be sure neither happen. Check out www.ruthinking.co.uk “In your area” for a list of the agencies where you can get free condoms, and free and confidential advice. If you are worried about coming too quickly, try some Extra Strong condoms, they are slightly thicker than average ones, and may reduce the sensation a bit more, giving you more “staying power”. As you feel more comfortable and confident with having sex, you’ll find that you will be able to control more when you come.
Is your girlfriend over the age of 16? Sex with anyone under the age of 16 is illegal.
Remember, you don’t have to do anything that you don’t feel comfortable with, for anyone. When the time is right, you will know. First time (and anytime) should be a pleasurable and fun experience. What fun can it be if you don’t feel right about it?
