I left primary school and also my best friends I have had so much fun with, they were everything to me! I moved school then and I have these friends but I think I'm forgetting all my other friends and two of them are being nasty to me! Help.
Female: 12 - 15 Years
In going to your new school you have made a new circle of friends and the old ones are feeling left out a bit. Two things stand out - firstly if they are your best friends they should not be being nasty to you and secondly some of this sounds like your fault in that you have forgotten about them. You need to talk to them and explain that you are trying to fit in at your new school and are making new friends, but that does not mean that you cannot still be friends with them and that they are still very important to you and you will make time for them too. Good luck.
There is this boy in my classes and he is so fit!! pheww! But sometimes he is a little bit nasty and he always smiles at me though!!!?? And also he asked me what was wrong when I was sad, but like we haven't spoken a lot, I'm so nervous?? help me.
Female: 10 - 12 Years
You obviously like this boy, but also feel threatened by him a bit. If he is nasty to you, you must tell a responsible adult like your parents, a teacher or a youth worker. If it is because you like this boy then just act as naturally as you can around him and we are sure he will respond. Good luck.
There's a boy I like but I don't know if he likes me. He always challenges what I say but is constantly truthful and once or twice I've caught him looking at me. What does it mean? Please help me.
Female: 13 - 15 years
It is difficult to know from what you say whether he likes you or not, but you clearly like him. It is a positive sign that he is talking to you and challenges what you say, which shows you he is interested in what you are talking about. Get talking to him some more and if you still like him, you need to pluck up courage and ask him out if you want to. Good luck.
OK here's the scenario. there's a boy I used to have in my class who I sat next to. We talked and everything but my friend says we were flirting. though I don't think we were- we were just talking. At first he didn't smile much but one day he smiled directly at something I said. We moved apart after that but at the moment now and then I see him looking at me. Just generally looking at me- nothing going on at all- but I find it hard to keep eye contact because I blush too easily. My friend says I have a crush on him. Do I?
Female: 13 - 15 years
Only you can answer that question. But it does sound like you fancy him. You need to talk to him more often and if you still like him, pluck up the courage to ask him out. Good luck.
I may sound really selfish and slightly paranoid... but I have a best friend and we used too tell each other everything and have no secrets, now there's this other girl who hangs round with us and they live right by each other... there always around each others houses and tell each other everything. i feel mad because she wont admit there best friends and doesn't tell me anything anymore and whenever I stop round hers or we go out she invites her... I don't want too upset them, I just want my best friend back... what do I do?
Female 13 - 15 Years.
It's really tough isn't it when friendships come under threat from others, especially when the person concerned is your best friend. And of course once that happens we don't feel like telling them our inner most secrets and feel that loss, as we all need to be able to talk to someone. However just because your friend has met someone new does not mean she does not still care about you and value your friendship. Maybe you could get to know this new girl and the three of you could spend time together. Sadly we have no control over who people become friends with, so rather than focussing on losing this girl as your best friend, see it as an opportunity to explore other interests try and make even more friends. Good luck.
My friend has invited me to a party. I said I would go but the stuff they do is not my cup of tea. What shall I do?
(Male: 10 - 12)
Too often in life we all find ourselves doing stuff and going to things that we do not want to. But it is essential that we learn to say 'no' when it is important to us. On this occasion I would tell a little white lie to spare your friends feelings, think of a good excuse, like your family are doing something you have to join in with, and say to your friend that unfortunately something has come up and you can no longer make it. For the future, if you do not want to go somewhere, it would be better to say so straight away, or say that you cannot remember what you are doing and will have to get back to them, this gives you time to think up an excuse if you do not want to go. Good luck.
I like this boy in my year he is really fit but I don't think he even notices me, I don't want to go up to him because I'm scared he will laugh at me. I also haven't told any of my friends about it, I want to, but I just haven't got the guts. What do I do?
Female: 10 - 12
Life can be really hard at times can't it? There is no reason why he should laugh at you and you have to stop thinking negatively, he may be pleased you have approached him. Try and find out his interests so you can talk to him about something he likes, ask him for his mobile number or email address and then spark up a conversation with him through those methods, which you may find easier. You are going to have to find the courage to speak to him at some point, if you want to go out with him. Don't tell your friends unless you really trust them, as they may make things more difficult for you if they tell him. Good luck.
This guy keeps saying he likes me and says all this stuff but he has a girlfriend and he moved away from her into the UK and lived closer to me but he doesn't wanna break up with his girlfriend what do I do?
(Female: 13 - 15)
Your problem is ringing alarm bells. You state that this guy has moved to the UK to be nearer you, but doesn't want to break up with his girlfriend back home. Not once in your problem have you written how you feel about him. My advice is to steer clear of this guy, he clearly wants the best of both worlds and you are worth more than that. Good luck.
There is this boy I really like at school. I asked him out but he rejected me. The problem is, I'm really different. I'm really tall and big compared to the people in year 7 at my school. He asked out another girl, but I get the feeling he regrets it. He keeps looking at me and flirting with me. Should I just give up, if not, what should I do?
(Female: 10-12)
You obviously think a lot of this boy, otherwise you wouldn't want to give him a second chance. I am not sure you will like my advice but I would play it cool, let him know you are still interested by being nice to him and talking to him, but let him do the chasing. Then you are in control and you are worth more than keep asking him out.
My boyfriend never talks to me and I think he is interested in another girl, he is a year older and I would be better if we were just friends.
(Female: 10 – 12 years)
As you point out one of the most important things in any relationship is being able to talk to your chosen partner and when you both stop talking it becomes uncomfortable and not very enjoyable. It is hard for me to tell if your boyfriend is interested in another girl, but you obviously have your suspicions, although to be fair to him, there may be a number of reasons why he isn’t talking to you – you could try one last time and ask him why you both do not talk like you used to. If that fails then, as you suggest, it may be better to tell him that you just want to be friends. Good luck
My mate keeps ditching me and I'm left on my own. All my other mates are always busy so I have nothing to do in the afternoons and weekends.
(Male: 12)
I am really sorry to hear about your problem. You could develop a new hobby, interest or sport, maybe join a club - that's a fantastic way to meet new people and make new friends. If you want to, the other thing you could do is find out what your mates are up to and see if you can join them. Good luck - I am sure things will improve.
I have just found out that my best friend is moving away. We really
get on well and talk about anything. What am I going to do? (Male: 14)
I am sorry to hear that your friend is moving away, it's sad when we become
separated from people that we are close to. However, all is not lost! In these times of modern technology you will still be able to talk to your friend, all be it electronically. If you don’t have access to email or msm at home pop into a library or The Square café
in Hailsham if you live near there. Or you could write an old fashioned letter and post it. In the meantime, I'm sure your school runs many after school clubs. Why not
join some ? They provide an excellent opportunity to pursue interests and
make new friends at the same time.
