Positive mental health is when a range of feelings such as energy, confidence, happiness, calm and caring are combined and balanced
Young people say that the things that really help them feel positive are:
Having people to talk to
Many people feel that they have problems sometimes. It can help to share your feelings with someone you trust. It helps you not to feel alone. Bottling up your feelings may make you feel worse.
If you feel there is no one to talk to call a helpline. Everyone needs help from time to time.
Achieving something
This may be something at school or in a sport. Learning a new skill can increase your confidence. All kinds of creative things can help if you are worried or feeling low. Try playing or listening to music, writing, painting or poetry.
Learning to relax
Doing something you really enjoy can help you to feel less worried. You can try some relaxation exercises. Activities such as walking, swimming or sports can also give you more energy if you do them regularly. Regular exercise really helps if you’re feeling sad or worried about anything.
Things that worry young people can include…
Arguments and anger
Anger can happen when people feel they are not getting what they want or that things are not the way they think they should be. They may realise that things are not always under their control.
Anger can take many forms. It can vary from indignation to rage and fury. Some people repress their anger and withdraw, others may become aggressive.
Anger is a frightening emotion but it is usually an emotion bought on as a result of fear. It can show us that a problem exists so that we can deal with the underlying reasons. It can encourage us to sort out the things that are not working in our lives.
Bullying
Unfortunately bullying in schools can be common. It can include being teased, being left out or having your possessions taken.
If you feel you are being bullied it can make you sad, anxious and withdrawn. Don't ignore it but tell someone you trust - a teacher, parent or friend. It's not your fault. No one deserves to be bullied. Keep a note or diary of what has been happening.
Bullies have their own problems. Perhaps they feel that they don't fit in. Maybe they get bullied themselves. Many don't like themselves and so take it out on someone else.
If you want to talk to someone about being bullied or being a bully you can talk to Childline on 08001111. They can help children and young people.
